wedding by the sea - Cape May

if we're pushing through with the cape may venue here's what it will cost:

  $200 - chairs ($4 x 50 pax)
  $100 - arbor
  $200 - 4 wedding feather banner (i thought two is fine but bob wants 4 feather banner)
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 $500

all from: http://www.weddings-bythesea.com/

Ceremony Locations: Sunset Pavilion, Beach (Provide Cross-Street Name), Dune Walk / Deck, Bandstand Gazebo, Kiwanis Park Gazebo, Lighthouse area, Harbor View Park Pavilion, Hotel, Other.





and for the legal stuff:

Licensing – State law requires that all who marry in NJ must have a marriage license issued in NJ. A 72 hour mandatory waiting period applies. Call the Registrar of Vital Statistics, Mon-Fri, Noon -4PM at 609-884-9599.
 

Contact the Cape May Registrar at the city clerk's office (609) 884-9599 for a marriage license appointment. Appointments are Monday through Friday, between noon and 3 PM.

Once you apply for a license, there's a 72 hour waiting period before the license is issued - so don't `wait until the last minute! You can apply for the marriage license within six months of your wedding date.

Permits – Scheduling with City Hall is necessary for use of public facilities. A $25 administrative fee and official beach rules apply. E-mail to weddings@capemaycity.com.

   Start your wedding plans by contacting Terry Stickle, the city's wedding coordinator, at (609) 884-9580. Terry will help you reserve your beach wedding location.

so that's additonal:

  $25 - for use of public sites if there are over 20 guests
  $25 - administration fee

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$50

and for the reception we're looking at $90/pax....so that's another $4,500

TOTALS:

$   500 - ceremony rentals
$    50 - legal fees
$4,500 - reception
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$5,050

plus:

$  150 - wedding dress

$  200 - bridesmaid dress (4 ladies, i found some cheap ones online, hurray)
$   ?    - photographer
$   ?    - videographer
$   ?    - save-the-date (this is my DIY project)
$   ?    - invitations (might be a DIY project)
$   ?    - souvenirs (head massager from kikkerland)

i need to look for cheaper caterer.....and cheap photo/video..... i really want to pull off a $5K beach wedding..... i can't believe we'll be spending that much for a very simple wedding when in the Philippines for that same amount that will cover all the expenses for a very good wedding already!


anyway, we're thinking of going to cape may this weekend and check the suppliers and look for ceremony venue.... i want the sunset view but the lighthouse view is cool too....

Church Wedding Requirements Checklist

Diocese of Paranaque

I. DOCUMENTS REQUIRED

1.Baptismal Certificate issued within 6 months of wedding date and with notation “for marriage”

2.Confirmation Certificate issued within 6 months of wedding date and with notation “FOR MARRIAGE”

3.Birth Certificate (NSO copy)

4.Marriage License
OR Civil Marriage Certificate (if civilly married)
OR Affidavit of Marriage Between a Man and a Woman who Have Lived Together for at Least Five
Years from the City Hall
5. CENOMAR



II. REQUIREMENTS FOR FOREIGNERS - do we still need this if we're already married civilly in the U.S?
1.Certification of Free Status to Marry from the embassy of country of origin.
2.Certificate of Freedom to Marry from parish priest, pastor or religious leader
OR Marriage Banns to be issued by the parish/es abroad where he/she has lived for 6 months or more
prior to the wedding
3.Photocopy of pages 1 & 2 of passport
4.Endorsement from the Japanese Chaplain, if he/she is a Japanese citizen
5.Clearance from the Chancery



III. REQUIREMENTS FOR NON-CATHOLICS
1.Baptismal certificate or certificate of religious affiliation
2.Certificate of freedom to marry from pastor or religious leader. In case there is no religious affiliation, Certificate of No Marriage (CENOMAR) from the NSO
3.Petition for Permission for the celebration of Mixed Marriage or Petition for the Decree of Dispensation from the Impediment of Disparity of Cult signed by contracting parties and endorsed by parish priest
4.Permission for Mixed Marriage or Decree of Dispensation from Disparity of Cult issued by the Chancery



IV. PARISH REQUIREMENTS - can we do this here?
1. Canonical Interview Date: Priest: ____________
2. Publication of marriage banns for 3 consecutive Sundays ­__________ __________ __________
and Permission from own Parish
3. Marriage Preparation Program
A. Pre-Cana B. Catechism C. Natural Family Planning
4. Sacrament of Confession (a week before the wedding date)
5. Officiating Priest: ____________________________
Appointment: ___________________
Authorization No.: ____________________________
Valid Until: ____________________
If the Officiating Priest is not from the Diocese of Parañaque, a photocopy of his Authority to
Solemnize Marriage and celebret should be submitted.

V. Other Requirements
List of Sponsors
Wedding Fee OR #


wow!

that's a lot!

I wonder if we still need those Pre-Cana & Catechism. H2b is not Catholic and converting to Catholic is not our option right now.

photo credits: http://adichbanks.multiply.com/